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TEACH CURSING
How to Teach During a Hateful Time
Part 3 — Grief… and cursing
My kids are grieving.
They are grieving the loss of democracy, goodness in leadership, things that they have come to expect to be human rights, and their own happiness.
I am grieving too.
I didn’t realize that I was going through the stages of grief until I got to the Bargaining stage. I remember the Denial (Tuesday evening/Wednesday morning), and the Anger (ever since the Denial), but I didn’t realize that it was grief.
Now I see it because I was bargaining with myself this morning. I kept telling myself that DT (I don’t want to type is name more than I have to — maybe still a little in the Anger stage.) didn’t accomplish much his first time out, that he was using hyperbole and racism to rile up his base and possibly didn’t really mean all of that, and that he is basically not going to be up for the level of difficulty and resistance that some of these policies are going to throw at him.
I realize that I was bullshitting myself with a lot of that, but it made me feel better and it also made me realize that I was in the bargaining stage of grief. The truth is, he is a vengeful, racist, hateful, terrible person with unbound power and sycophantic followers and he’s…
